Sunday, 24 June 2012

It's good to be different

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Hello :)

Wanted to share a few things that happened this week <3


 Here are my new fishies :) I have some neon tetras (to the left), black neon tetras (above) and some harlequins (to the right) :) I love them! Especially not being as well this week I've thoroughly enjoyed       watching my fish swim about :)


I have posted about some of my new jewellery & crafts ideas on facebook, and they are going down really well :) If you'd like to have a look at what they are, visit my group http://www.facebook.com/groups/dreamersjewelleryandcrafts

This weeks blog post is about people who are different. Well, in all fairness everyone is different. You never get 2 people who are alike! But these are people who stand out more than others, and there is nothing at all wrong with that :)
What makes people stand out in a crowd? It could be obvious things like the way they dress or physical disabilities. But it also can be something like the way they act or how they talk. So many different things which make people different, it makes the world a lot more interesting :)

To start with I want to talk about people with disabilities, for an obvious reason ;) Being in a wheelchair doesn't change me at all, nor does the fact I can't walk much at all. I'm still me, and I just have an extra pair of wheels in my life :) I'm lucky, I haven't had too many judgemental people in my life. Everyone who is in at the moment accepts how I am & that I'm still the same Kate I used to be - just a bit more sleepy ;) But when I'm out, its a completely different story. People don't even look at you, no-one notices the 'wheelchair kid'. And if they do, it's because they are staring at you or talking about you. Sometimes the staring is just because they are wandering why you are in a wheelchair, what happened and some people are actually really horrible to people in wheelchairs (trust me, I know!). But y'know what, I'd love it if these people would just ask what's wrong. I hate talking about my illness, and don't particularly like explaining it, but its so much better when people understand and get educated about things. I'd love to be able to change the way people look at disabled people. I'm lucky in the sense that I won't be in this chair for life. But others aren't so lucky. And they have to deal with this every day and I think it's just wrong. A lot of people are scared of people in wheelchairs, as silly as it sounds. But we are all humans after all, some people might take a bit more understanding and effort, but we're all on Earth together :) 
 I think it's only since I have been in a wheelchair that I start to talk to disabled people a lot more. You exchange smiles to anyone else you see in a wheelchair when you're out & when I was able to go to college, I used to talk to the disabled students. I know when I'm better, I'll help them get doors, tilt up ramps, pushing..ect All the things you would only know are difficult with being in a wheelchair. 
Disabled people aren't just people in wheelchairs though. Things like autism are common, and it's nothing to be scared of. When I went and got my fish, there was a boy there with obvious learning difficulties, and he just really wanted to tell me about his fish and all the facts about the ones I was getting. It was lovely and all he really wanted to do was to have a conversation with someone, as no-one was really paying any attention to him when he tried to start a conversation as he came across 'very in your face' and hyper. Yes, it can be difficult engaging with them, but it's worth a shot. I can speak on all people who are disabled's behalf and say we just all want to be treated equally. So next time you see someone in a wheelchair, smile at them, comment on the colour of their wheelchair. Or if there is a disabled care group out, maybe ask one of the carers if they children like talking, and have a little conversation.  You could seriously make someone's day :)

Standing out from a crowd isn't always a good or a bad thing. It depends on the situation really. For example, if you are applying for a job and you have a perfect CV/interview you stand out as a brilliant candidate. But if you're on a night out and get extremely drunk and disorderly, that's not a good thing. The things I see as being 'right' when standing out from a crowd are things which don't cause any trouble! Also, standing out from a crowd can also cause judgements from other people. It could be the way you dress, act or react to situations. But I don't think other peoples judgements are something to be too concerned about!

The way you dress, especially in the teenage years, is quite a big thing. You will get labelled on it. Wearing black? You're a goth. Just got a good grade and like wear your tie like you're supposed too? You're a nerd. It actually puts a lot of pressure on society, but luckily it's something which wears off with the older you get. I don't think I ever completely 'fitted' any category when I was well. I was sporty, but also clever & hard working. I wore what I want, listened to a range of music, and hung out with a huge group of mixed people. Now, I really like having my own style. I absolutely love everything vintage, but have a modern twist ;) I make my own jewellery so it's suited to me and I have a really mixed wardrobe :p It's just who I am, and there's nothing wrong with that :) I have loads of friends with their own individual style, each is quirky and beautiful in their own way :) I like people who are a bit different, makes things more interesting & I like learning about other styles. I think that's what has made my jewellery making so successful :)

Think I'm blabbing on a bit here, but basically I wanted to say it's ok to be different. Don't be swayed by a crowd, do it your own way in style ;) And also, don't judge people because they are different too :)

So here's the question.. What makes you different? 




Craftiness

Going with the whole difference theme and appreciating everything, here's today craft project :) Flower pressing. Flowers are beautiful, you find all different kind, shapes, colours, sizes.. So why not use that? Cut off a flower head and place it in between 2 sheets of absorbent paper. After, weigh it down, with something like the yellow pages and leave for 2 weeks. After 2 weeks, you will have your dried, pressed flower. You can use it to make cards, scrapbook decorations and much much more. Yes, you can buy a flower pressing kit for about £10, but this probably costs you 2p and is just as good! Happy flower pressing :)


kate x

Tuesday, 19 June 2012

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Gosh, it's been so long since I've posted on here! Lots has been happening, and energy has been scarce, so blogging took a back seat for awhile!

Little update since I last blogged..
I sat my maths exam! It was split into 2 papers, totally wiped me and one of them was so hard but I DID IT! Had a bit of bother at the end as the lift broke and I couldn't get down the stairs.. but hey ho ;) I had my 18th birthday, which I will write a bit more about soon, & it was absolutely amazing :) I've had lots of hospital trips, including an admission.. So I've been and seen lots of hospital beds in the North East ;) And, I have made lots of new & pretty things :)

My 18th


I'm finally 18 :) I'm going to tell you about my day & what I did :)

I started off the day opening presents :) I got totally spoilt by friends & family! I do have a picture but I look so rough as I was actually quite poorly in the morning, so I'm going to leave that one ;) After opening my presents there was a knock at the door, and to my surprise, my boyfriend Michael (who should be at work) was standing with presents :) He took the day off to spend with me which was so lovely :D I had a lie down, and after I ate some potato wedges :p Fell asleep for quite awhile, as I wasn't feeling well, and got woke up later on by a knock on the door which was my beautiful bestfriend/soulmate/kindacousin Becca Stanforth :D We opened presents & had a little chat before she left & I got my hair washed & put up for me :) Rested for hours then got ready for the party :) Had a lovely time at the party, had a dance, spoke to people & generally had a great time :) Then collapsed into bed when I got back as I majorly overdid it ;)

My birthday really was spread out over the weekend too. I spread out present opening over a few days, had a massive bed/dead day after my party but managed a photoshoot the day after with Becca which was great :) Definitely love having Becca up, was absolutely amazing, and we are already trying to plan our next meet up!!

And here's a photo of my with my beautiful cake :)

With all that birthday excitement & hospital things, it's taken it out of me a bit, but I'm still managing to do things I enjoy :) And I still seem to have things to keep me busy ;) I have this amazing new craft idea which I'm working really hard on, and I absolutely love making them. Will post more about them when I publish the photo's & things! I had my first ever jewellery party, which went really really well! And, I'm still managing to (kind-of) do most of my 2 hour a week online learning :) Doctor says to cut it to 10mins at a time, so we're trying to adjust it so I'm less wiped which will be good!

Unfortunately I've been having quite a tough time with deaths.. 6 in the past few weeks which has obviously been emotional but I have tried my very best to support who I can :) On a more positive note, one of my birthday presents was a fish tank, so I am enjoying watching them swim about from my bed! 

Anyways, that's (what was supposed to be) a quick catch up on my life :) I'll post a bit later in the week & I'll have a crafty project on there for you all :)

Stay strong,
Keep smiling,
Never give up.

Lots of love, kate x

Just a note: I'd love to hear from you whether its text/email/facebook. Don't mind if we have never talked before, or we'd fallen out, or we just lost contact.. Just a little hello would be super lovely <3